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Taking time off work to hang out with my kids during the school holidays

Every school holidays, Molly, Charlie and I sit down together to plan a mix of low-cost adventures and lazy days at home. Here's what we got up to.

Raised outdoor platform at night

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Ben Guernsey

Making a plan for the week together

Every school holidays, I take at least a week off instead of putting the kids into holiday programs or after-school care. The Sunday before, Molly, Charlie and I sit down together with a to-do list app to brainstorm. We capture as many ideas as we can, beach days, wet weather backups, catching up with friends and family, a mix of no-cost and low-cost activities.

It’s all about flexibility and freedom, having options to decide on the day based on the weather and how everyone’s feeling. Going in with nothing set in stone sounds chaotic, but because the ideas came from all of us, it ends up feeling like something we planned together anyway.

Getting out and about

  • Check out the new gear at surf store πŸ„
  • Go shopping to spend birthday vouchers πŸ›’
  • Get happy meals at McDonalds 🍟
  • Ride scooters around the neighbourhood πŸ›΄
  • Brunch and hot chocolate at a cafe β˜•
  • Get Molly’s ears pierced πŸ‘‚
  • Meet mum in the city for lunch πŸ’ƒ
  • Play on the swings and slide at the park 🌈
  • Hike up Mount Kaukau with the dog β›°
  • Pick out new laptop cases for schoolΒ πŸ’»
  • Get haircuts before school starts back πŸ’‡πŸΌ
  • Go out for sushi train 🍣
  • Go for a walk along the beach πŸ–
  • Hang out and play with the cousins πŸ˜€
  • Kick soccer ball around at the park ⚽
  • Play dodge ball at Kiwi bounce (trampoline park) πŸ₯

Chilling at home

  • Watch all the Star Wars movies back to back πŸŽ¬
  • Have a living room dance party πŸŽ‰
  • Give the car a clean and then get frozen cokes πŸš—
  • Paint each other’s nails πŸ’…
  • Have a lightsabre fight in the lounge 🀺
  • Video call with family and friends overseas πŸ–₯
  • Make a big batch of jelly πŸ™
  • Make fresh lemonade from scratch πŸ‹
  • Help cook dinner for the family πŸ•
  • Play a game of Cluedo πŸ’€
  • Play a few rounds of Guess Who πŸ‘‘
  • Curl up with a good book πŸ“–

My favourite parenting hack, which you can steal

Since 2015, I’ve been using my favourite parenting hack. Send the kids to school while Ali and I take the day off work to hang out. Gym, surfing, brunch, then pick the kids up after school for mango gelatos at the beach, followed by Thai food and Oreo cheesecake πŸ”₯

Some holidays, Ali was still working, so it was just me and the kids, solo parenting and making the most of every single day. We nicknamed ourselves the “OG skate crew,” which, looking back, mostly meant I didn’t have a job at the time. It’s still what we call each other when it’s just the three of us hanging out, years later.

Spending the school holidays like this is a big part of why I’ve got such a good relationship with my kids today, just hanging out and doing stuff together. Besides, the skatepark is never as much fun when I’m there by myself.